Why it's so hard for single women to find single men in Seattle

Seattle has one of the highest single men to single women ratios in America. So why are so many single women in Seattle unable to find their guy?

Sally, 35, has lived in Seattle all her life, and has dated over a hundred Seattle men, but has never had a relationship last longer than 3 weeks. 

"I carefully explain to each man I date that they were born a rapist and will always be a rapist", Sally explained. "They need to understand that. The first step toward healing is to realize that they are inherently evil and can never become good."

"My friend Penny's husband Bill understands that. He's a rape prevention activist and is always talking about how horrible men are to women. He's awesome! Why can't I find a guy like that?"

Demographer Yvonne has been researching the Seattle dating scene professionally for 10 years. She explains:

"Although there are far more single men than single women in Seattle, most of the single women are looking for men who are feminist activists, are obsessed with gender politics, and have no self respect. There are more men who fit that description in Seattle than anywhere else in the world, but still not anywhere near enough to go around. 

"It's a zero-sum game where every ounce of respect for men is seen as necessarily going hand in hand with an ounce of anti-feminist self-loathing. The vast majority of single women in Seattle grow old without ever getting one of those über-feminist men for herself. Meanwhile, the single Seattle men who don't fit that description have few single women to choose from.

Not that the men are blameless, by any means. Yvonne continues:

"It doesn't help that Seattle single men are without a shadow of a doubt the world's most inept when it comes to meeting women and asking them out. Playing with video games and science-fiction toys all day is not a helpful path to finding lasting love with most women.

"A little encouragement from a single woman would go a long way toward bringing these awkward men out of their shells, but there has been no documented case of that ever happening, perhaps due to the rumor that the Space Needle will spontaneously combust if any Seattle single woman ever does that.

"The sad result is a large city with many singles who have great difficulty finding lasting love, and who in too many cases never will."

However, many of Seattle's single women do have plenty of sex. Yvonne continues:

"When these frustrated women decide it's time to hook up for the night, they are attracted to the polar opposite of the type of man they have been looking for, and spend the night with a macho misogynist. Then, her disgust with how he treats her that night fuels her continued search for Mr. Right.

"Ironically, Seattle is an excellent place for misogynist single men who want to have a lot of sex but not get tied down. They can spend virtually every night with a beautiful, intelligent, highly educated young woman."